Self-Confidence
This month's focus in student success is on self-confidence, and what you can
do as a parent to help build self-confidence in your child.
As the oldest of three girls, I never had a problem with self confidence. Primarily, at
times I feel I have too much self confidence, and I wish my sisters had a dose of some of
my inherited overpowering trait. How do we build self confidence in our children? Below
are some quick strategies that might be useful in boosting self confidence in your
children:
- Be positive in your remarks and discussions with children. Instead of
saying, "No, that is the wrong way to put away your clothes," try saying,
"Great, let's try putting your clothes away like this (and model the correct
procedure). Making sure to comment on how happy you are for your child's actions.
- Teach problem solving to your child by placing the child in situations with
decisions and choices. For instance, instead of saying, "Sit still while I'm driving
the car," say "What are some things to keep you busy so that you won't distract
me when I'm driving. It is important that I not be distracted." Make eye contact with
children and speak to them at eye level.
- Make your children believe that they can do something. They can make things
happen. Allow your child to set realistic goals with realistic standards. A child needs to
explore and take risks. This allows parents to be a support system and also allows for
working out goals with parents.
- Provide experiences for your child that are realistic as well as rewarding.
Learning opportunities such as going to the grocery store, helping with laundry, yard
work, painting, and other family activities builds a sense of achievement and
accomplishments.
- Verbal praise is great and does not need to come at the end of an endeavor.
Every step along the way should be celebrated. Kids need to know and be told that they are
doing well. Confidence grows with each step toward the goal.
Look at these websites for further tips, toys, and other strategies that build self
confidence.
Do kids really care about the clothes they wear in school as it relates to
self-confidence?
We want feedback. Please tell us your thoughts. hj@syracuse.com
As parents, we need to read more and model the valuable took/skill to our children.
Below are two specific articles I found helpful for the topic of self confidence:
Endnote: To build self-esteem,
- Celebrate uniqueness of the child .
- Show & tell children that they are competent and capable.
- Empower your children to believe in themselves like no one else can.
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